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Monday, October 22, 2012

OK, so you don't like me....let me get a tissue.

Once upon a time, that used to freak me out.

The whole... they don't like me.  Oooh, Ooh, let me jump through hoops!  Do they like me now??  How about now??  Now??  Hmmm.... Let me try harder.  Do they like me yet?  Why not?  Why, Why, Why, WHY???

Now....I'm over that crap.

Of course I want people to like me - who doesn't?

Truth be told... I'm not everyone's cup of tea.  I'm blunt.  If I have something to say, I say it.  I don't sugar coat it.  Though everyone knows where they stand with me, not everyone appreciates it.  Hmpf. Let me go get an invisible tissue to wipe away my non-existent tears.

I know that sounds very harsh and unfeeling.  I'm not that way at all.
If you've been following me both on here & on my page, you know that I'm a big ol mush!

I've come to a point in my life where I understand that not everyone is going to think I'm all that & a bag of chips.  Shocking, right??

You don't like me?  :(
My fault, I know it and I own it. I'm impulsive.   Sometimes it bugs the crap out of me, other times - it's the perfect way to weed out those folks who aren't really invested in the friendship.

I have taken friendship breaks from some folks from time to time.  Not necessarily ending the friendship - but taking a step back out of it.  Seeing what things really are.

Relationships change, people change.  Sometimes it's for the better, other's not.

Maybe it's that I've gotten older & have a lower tolerance for b/s.  Maybe I'm wiser?  Who knows.  I feel I've come to a place that when it comes to me & mine I don't put up with any nonsense.

Truth - people come into your life at different times for different reasons.


Just because they walk out at one time doesn't necessarily mean they won't walk back in at another, nor are they guaranteed to ever walk back in. That's OK too.

While I am a "pleaser" by nature, I know it's not my direct responsibility to cater to each and every individual on the planet.  Nor do I need to jump through hoops to make someone like me.  Either they do or the don't.  Their loss if the don't.

Yeah...  I know - that's a bit self promoting, but I'd rather have a positive, loving self image than a reflection of something I'm not proud of because I'm trying to fit into someone else's perfect little mold.

What it really comes down to is that you can't please all the people all the time.  All you can do is do right by others & right by yourself.
Give and expect respect.

Give for the joy of giving and you'll never be disappointed.  If you give expecting something in return, you may not achieve your desired results.

I don't expect the world to bow down at my feet.

I am who I am, and I'm good with me.

Are you good with you?

Lots of love & hugs!

~Jenn

14 comments:

  1. This post came at the perfect time for me! I am in the middle of a family battle---dumped an in-law a year ago and now it seems I have to dump another because of her back- stabbing and hurtful ways. I am 53 and do not need this type of negativity in my life anymore. At my age I decided to "simplify" my life and cut out all the crap. I love myself for who I am and I certainly don't need people who can't appreciate me for who I am in my life ANYMORE. There. I said it and I feel better. Thanks for letting me vent, Dr. Jenn! Lol!

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    1. Tee hee, Dr. Jenn :) I'm glad I could be of help... Amazing how the older we get, the more we actually see. I hope your in-law issues iron out... even if they need to be smacked upside the head with the iron :) xxoo

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  2. Well I like ya! You do a lot of good for your fellow man and that is so awesome!

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  3. This post came at the perfect time for me as we'll. thank you for sharing. And I will heed your words. ;)

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    1. I'm so happy I could be of help :) Thank you for reading & commenting! Have a happy day!

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  4. Well I think you're all that and a bag of Doritos, does that count? heehee xo

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    1. Yes & it makes me smile really BIG :) xxoo

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  5. Stay just the way you are. You're my cup of tea...and a bag of chips!

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  6. Must be an age thing! I stand right beside you in all you said. I'm 42 feeling like going on 72 with the crap around me and no thanks, I'll yield only so far (not much) anymore!

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    1. That's right, bend but not break! :) Thank you for always supporting me. Love you to bits :)

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  7. I'm with you on this! I'm good with me, too. Take it or leave it. Did somebody mention chips? Is there dip?

    I stopped by from Snarkfest to say hello; hope you find time to return the visit!

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    1. Welcome! Oh that Snarkfest, she's a sweetie pie!! Thank you for coming on over!! Chips & dip, you bet!! :) It's all about being happy. :)

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