Enter new friend.
Although I was never opposed to making new friends, I am not a "good in groups" kinda gal. I never really traveled in one circle of friends. All of my friends are from different circles, mostly knowing each other in passing - but not really hanging out with each other. That was all OK with me. This friend was extra kind to me. She took me in as a friend, sheltered me and made me feel comfortable during a really difficult time in my life. As our friendship grew, I began to trust and develop a closeness to her. I continue to be grateful for that caring and concern at a time when I really needed it. Through her I met other people and began to "hang out" in a group of friends. I enjoyed this. We all had a lot of fun together. We were together more often than not as all of the children were all doing the same activities together. It was nice. Until it stopped being nice. When it stopped being nice, it got very not nice. It didn't start with this particular friend - but the loss of this friendship as a result another as well as the trickle down that occurred, hurt me. The others walking away didn't bother me. The thought that this friend, who I set apart from the rest, would so easily take things at face value, and forget our foundation hurt me. She hurt me. There was no truth that could be told. Her mind was made up. Even if she didn't say so. That made me sad for a long time. I learned that she was one of the 25% - someone who liked me, but could be persuaded not to.
If that other human is reading this it's fine if you want to gloat.
You opened my eyes and I am now at perfect peace with the entire situation. Thank you.
I have no regrets. Only blessings.
In our lives 25% of the people we are surrounded by don't like us and will never like us no matter what. 25% of the people don't like us, but can be persuaded to like us. 25% of the people like us but can be persuaded to not like us, and finally 25% of the people will like us unconditionally.
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