In my adult life, I have been more able to point out the "jealous" or "insecure" comments coming from other people, whether directed at me or another.
Sometimes, though - it just plain feels bad when you're on the receiving end. Regardless of the reason you're being spoken about, jealousy or insecurity factors go right out the window when feelings are involved.
I think that's one of the things that enrages me the most when other people do it.
I've been around this, often. I try to ignore it. I've often turned a deaf ear to it or tried to talk up the person being talked down just to make it stop. It's speaks so much more of the person doing the yapping than the person being yapped about. Eventually it gets to be so much that people start comparing notes and realize that they too have been on the chopping block.
There only ends up being one person on the outside looking in.
I mean - gosh.... I don't recall the sun rising and setting over anyone specifically. Why would we believe for a second that we get to judge?
I'm no saint. I've had my days of bashing and not being so nice. It's something I've changed about myself because I got the "who the hell are you?" slap upside my head along with the very humbling, "You ain't all that, girlfriend." I've also grown up and I genuinely care about other people and their feelings.
I have no time for bitterness and gossip or perpetuating nonsense. I look at things for what they are and truly love everyone for who they are. Not everyone is easy to love, but that doesn't give anyone else the carte blanche to tear them down. I don't want to be around that! Who does?
Check your ego at the door. I'm incredibly sorry if you are insecure or jealous or whatever, but that's your problem. No one else's.
Being kind matters.
It is always important to remember.... If someone is talking about someone else TO you, they are talking to someone else ABOUT you.
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