Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Accepting Responsibility, Saying Sorry and Letting go...
It always amazes me how often things that go on around me have a way of coming to me & working itself out in a way that helps me to understand things better.
There may be people reading that will see the title and think, "Nice...she's using my stuff." I'm not.
Last night I went out with some of my girlfriends.
It was a totally crappy day at work and there was some ick around me that set a negative tone for my day, even though it didn't affect me directly.
While we were eating the waitress and an older man walked over to our table. The man was angry and pointing, going on about a jeep. Immediately I spoke up... I have a jeep. Did I do something?
So I asked if there was a problem. The man continued his angry rant, turning it to me. He went on and on about the a'hole who parked too close to his vehicle and how he couldn't get in, etc. I had no idea at that moment that I was said a'hole. I nicely got up and looked out the window and realized I was, indeed, the a'hole.
I immediately said I'd move my vehicle, and said how sorry I was to have inconvenience him. I didn't realize I'd parked poorly. I grabbed my keys and headed toward the parking lot. The man followed continuing his angry assault with regard to my park job. He was relentless. I ignored his angry words as they continued and continued. I was raised to be respectful to my elders, so I didn't say anything other than - "Really, sir - there's no need to be mean. I am more than happy to move my truck. I'm sorry I inconvenienced you." I moved my truck and went back inside without so much as a thank you, to which my inner snark came out as I hollered "You're WELCOME." across the parking lot.
It was amazing the impression this man left. When I walked back inside the hostess, waitresses and even the patrons were discussing how nasty the man was. Commending me for how I'd handled it.
Partially, I get it. I mean, I parked like an a'hole. He couldn't get into his car. I hate when that happens to me and I would get frustrated as well. Not sure I'd have gone off in the way he did, but whatever. I'm not that person. I don't know what makes him tick or what was going on in his day and I didn't pay attention to how I parked. My bad.
About a half hour later, another waitress came over to our table asking which one of us had to move our vehicle earlier in the evening. The man who I moved my truck for was on the phone and wanted to speak to me. Mmm. OK,
I was a bit shocked, but I took the phone and the gentleman proceeded to apologize to me. Profusely. He explained that his wife had a hip problem. She was the one who was going to drive and she couldn't get into the car. He didn't want her to have to climb over the console. (I wouldn't have wanted that for her either.) He was upset for her. He said he was sorry for the way he spoke to me and for being so curt. He appreciated that I didn't react negatively to him and apologized again for interrupting my dinner and for his behavior.
That moment restored my faith in human nature.
Genuinely, his behavior mostly rolled off my back. I didn't let it ruin my evening - but his phone call to apologize made the difference in capping off a nice evening on a positive note.
Sometimes, you just need to look at a situation and accept it for what it is.
No one likes to be wrong or bad or made to look the a'hole. Sometimes, just sometimes - you need to suck it up. Accept the fact that we are all human. We all make mistakes, and sometimes just accepting responsibility and letting it go is good enough.
Have a wonderful day!!
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